I recently listened to Amy Schumer’s Book, The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo on Audible. I especially liked listening to it, because she read it, which made it much funnier. She had a whole chapter on being introverted, which was funny and really great info.
“Being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re shy. It means you enjoy being alone. Not just enjoy it—you need it. If you’re a true introvert, other people are basically energy vampires. You don’t hate them; you just have to be strategic about when you expose yourself to them—like the sun.”
This rang so true for me! I need some alone time in my day to recharge. Which is why I like to run alone so much. It lets my mind wander and unwind. I know a lot of people who feel the same way. I think a lot of runners enjoy pounding away at the pavement for hours on end – and one of the things they like about it is untangling their thoughts in solitude.
One more great quote from that chapter: “So if you’re an introvert like me, especially a female introvert, or a person who is expected to give away your energy to everyone else on the reg, I want to encourage you to find time to be alone. Don’t be afraid to excuse yourself. Recharge for as long as you need.”
I definitely like spending time with others, and need that too. However, I know I need alone time more than some of my friends who like to have someone with them all the time. I remember in college I had friends who wouldn’t even go grocery shopping alone. There is nothing wrong with that, but I definitely relished my time in the library on my own, or out running to be alone and away from my roommates, classmates and the constant group of people you are encouraged to be a part of in college.
I loved Amy’s lighthearted take on being an introvert in the book. I think it is great that she doesn’t look at needing that alone time as a bad thing. It is more just something to know about yourself that makes your world run more smoothly.
This time of year, I know a lot of you have holiday parties for every facet of your lives, and it is really easy to over commit. But take it from Amy Schumer, there is nothing wrong with saying no. Maybe don’t say no to everything, but be confident in knowing what you need and putting that first.
Do you have a lot of holiday parties this year?
Do you thrive off being alone or with others?